now this aint just about black men, its about all men, them DL dudes. lovin on females & givin it up to the males. the ones too scared to just label themselves gay or bisexual.
i remember a while back, me & my homegirl called the chatline, boredom sucks ass, but anyways we went on the gay personals / live connect & there we hear our homeboy talking bout he has a big wet booty & he swallow cock.
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if you see dude, you would say never in a million years wuld he be fuckin a man, or be caught dead gettin it in with anything other than a female. you see him with his baby momma & son all the damn time. i'm assuming he still hasnt told her about him willingly spreading his asshole for another man, or the fact that he's kissing her with the same mouth he just had someones penis in.
to avoid this before it gets too far in your relationship, check the signs.
10.
He Likes To "
Pretend"
To Dance Like A Woman.
While a 50 Cent or Jay Z song is on, they on the wall looking mad. But, as soon as Beyonce comes on, he is all over the dance floor poppin' his booty and doing it better than you girl. Yeh, you think he’s playing and trying to make you laugh. But child he’s really not. Besides ladies, you don’t want no man, who be poppin his booty to beyonce. That’s a no no.
9.
He's Always With His Best Friend. I mean always together like two females. Always working out together, always on the phone together. And, you as the girlfriend wonder why he spends more time with his best friend than with you. Cause donkey you are his cover up. And, as long as he is with you, no one will think that he is gay. Wake up sister!
8.
He Picks An Argument With You For No Reason. And, then leaves the house for hours. He does this so he has time for the both of you and his down low lover. So be cautious child, if your man is always picking arguments with you and leaves the house for hours. If he’s not hiding that he’s gay, he’s hiding something. And, that’s another story, another time, and another place child!
7.
Look At His Walk. Does your dude walks too, too hard. So hard that it's noticeable. I mean y'all don't want your man to walk all gay like me. Cause, honey I sashes’ down the block like Naomi Campbell in the hood and what. But anyway, what is the hard, hard walk for. Oh, I know, you think if you walk all hard and tough and all people won't think that you are gay. But, you don’t realize, your walk is just as noticeable as my Naomi walk. You can fool the people, but you can’t fool me child. Cause, I know what you are covering up with that walk. The only difference between us is. I have the out the closet I’m gay walk. And, you have the in the closet I’m on the down low walk. Whatever child.
6.
He's Extremely Secretive. This sign is for all you parents out there. If you have a son who sneaks out the house a lot, and you rarely know his whereabouts most of the time. And mostly dudes call the house for him and he rarely talk about girls. Mama you done raised a Queen. Basically, if you know nothing about your son lifestyle, it’s because he doesn’t want you to know. He doesn’t want you to know that he is gay, that’s why everything with him is a big secret. Most of this secret lifestyle starts to happen around the age of 15. By then most boys should know if they like girls or boys or both.
5.
He Always Talks About How Chicks Want To Get At Him. But, in reality you never see him with none of the chicks. He's probably just saying them things to make you think he’s straight and to throw you off. In reality, all them chicks he talks about are really men. Okay....
4.
He Hits And Beats On Women. I’m sorry, a real man does not hit a woman. But, a down low man will. Now, wait a minute some women do like getting a little roughed up, choked up, a little weave pulling during sex child. But that’s another story child. Another story, because I like that too girl. I’m talking about those Ike and Tina Turner beatings. He's just trying to prove to the world that he is a heterosexual man. Knowing deep inside he is a big ol queen inside. Girl if your man is beating on you like that. Sister girl wake up, before it’s too late. True story!
3.
He's Always Calling Somebody Else Gay. A dude that is just always he’s gay, he’s how u doin! He looks gay. He acts gay. He dresses gay. He walks gay. SHUT UP! You just want him to be gay, so you can have him. Stop calling everyone else gay and call the person who truly is gay and on the down low and that’s you. You big ol queen!
2.
He Wants To Make Love From Behind.If your man always want to give it to you in your butt every time your have sex, and gets mad when you don’t want to put it in your butt. Girl, that’s a sign. Because child, if your man like poking you in the booty. What makes you think he wouldn’t mind poking me child? Also, if your man likes for you to put fingers or your tongue around or in his booty hole, yeh he a freak girl, a bisexual down low freak. And I shouldn’t have to tell you this one. But, if your man likes for you to strap on a dildo and give it to him in his booty, girl you need to wake up. Or you don’t care. Okay, Star Jones whatever makes you happy child. Also, be caution if your man likes threesomes with you, him and another man. Not another girl, but another man. How u doin. ALL RIGHT!
1.
He's Homophobic.
Is your dude always angry with gay people for no reason. Does he always have something negative to say about gay people. Does every time he see a gay dude, he got to make a comment like chi chi man or boti boy or bullet, bullet. He is only saying these things to get the gay boy attention. Because deep inside he wants that gay boy or he wants to be free and happy like him. So he hates on the gay boy, because the gay boy can care less of what folks has to say about him and he’s going to be himself. A real man will see a gay boy and say nothing. It’s always them dam down low ones who always got something to say. But to all my out the closet men, who have to deal with this. Ignore. Trust me. It’s the best medicine. But anyway, ladies be very caution if your man always got something to say about gay men. Cause behind close, close, close doors he’s probably bent over taking it better than you and me child.
bimbo's top ten signs of downlow man.what they're missing is to check the back of them jeans, most times you see them sagging cause that ass is in pain & they need to let it breathe, but if you live with ya man check for that wet stain. just like bustin a hymen the ass leaks fluid, you dont accidently get something jammed inya ass, it happens on purpose.
try grabbin his ass once, if he flips out & starts goin crazy, BINGO, mama ya dude is a faggy.
& check the porn he watches, mostly solo or hetero orgies he's gay.
here a ten things you should know about the DL.
1. The down low is just a
black version of "the closet." The down low is popularly used to refer to men who have sex with men but do not identify as gay or homosexual. Maybe you've heard that concept before. Long ago, we called it "the closet." The term "down low" is just a new way of describing a very old thing, but it's the hot new buzz word of the moment.
2.
The down low is not new. The phrase itself may be new, but the practice is as old as history. Men have been secretly sleeping with men since the beginning of time. And married men have been doing the same thing. The only thing new is what we call it.
3.
The down low is not just a black thing. When Jim McGreevey, the governor of New Jersey, announced last year that he had cheated on his wife with another man, no one bothered to make the obvious point -- Governor McGreevey had been on the down low. When white men do it, we call it what it is and move on. When black men do the same thing, we want to pathologize it. Therein lies a double standard.
4.
The down low is not simply a gay thing. The term "down low" entered the mainstream of black popular culture in the early 1990s. In 1993, Salt-n-Pepa recorded a song called "Whatta Man" that mentioned the down low. In 1994, TLC recorded a song called "Creep" about a woman on the down low. In 1995, Brian McKnight recorded his song, "On the Down Low," about a woman named Maxine on the DL. Then in 1996 and 1998, R. Kelly recorded not one, but two songs about the down low.
We laughed about it when it was a heterosexual thing, but suddenly we became alarmed when we "discovered" that gay and bisexual men were on the down low too. There's another double standard. In reality, the down low is simply about cheating, whether heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual.
5.
The down low is not the cause of the black AIDS epidemic. In 2003 (the last year in which we have full CDC data available) there were more than 7,000 black female AIDS cases reported in the United States. Out of that number, only 118 reported "sex with a bisexual male" as the method of exposure. That's just 1.6 percent of all black female AIDS cases. Believe it or not, there are other ways to get infected besides having sex with a man on the down low. Many women are also becoming infected through injection drug use, sex with an injection drug user, and sex with a heterosexual (not down low) man.
Focusing on the down low misleads women to think that the down low is a health threat instead of HIV. That's a serious mistake. A man on the down low who is HIV negative cannot pass the virus to you, but a straight man who is not on the down low could easily give you HIV if he is infected with the virus. The down low does not cause AIDS. HIV causes AIDS.
6.
The down low discussion is a distraction from the real issues. All the time we've spent sensationalizing the down low in the past few years is time we could have spent talking about solutions to the AIDS epidemic in our communities.
On an individual level, we need to encourage men and women to exercise personal responsibility. On an institutional level, we need to mobilize our churches, fraternities, sororities and civic organizations so they can provide reliable safe sex information, HIV testing, and nonjudgmental counseling. And on a public policy level, we need to talk about free testing facilities, needle exchange programs, condoms in prison, targeted AIDS prevention funding, resources for low-income people living with AIDS, and safe sex education in public schools. That's the dialogue we should be having.
7. There are no "signs" to tell if a man is on the down low. There are going to be a lot of people out there trying to tell you how to find out if your man is on the DL. Don't waste your time. The whole point of the down low is that these are people who do not want to be detected. The moment you come up with a "guidebook" to give you some warning signs is the moment when men on the down low will devise new strategies to elude you.
8. Becoming a "down low detective" is not the answer. Log onto various Internet web sites about the down low, and you'll find lots of information about how to spy on your partner. Sure, you could hire a private investigator to follow him around when he goes to work, but what does that say about your relationship? If you do suspect something is fishy, you may be in for a shocking surprise. Your man may be cheating on you -- with another woman!
A better solution is to confront the homophobia in our community that contributes to the down low. If we want to stop the down low, then we need to create a climate where men (and women) don't feel the need to be on the down low in the first place. Then we won't have as many men who feel forced into fake relationships to keep the parents, friends and nosey neighbors out of their lives.
9.
Demonizing men on the down low will not make them straight. One popular response to the down low is to demonize all down low men as villains. That may make us feel a little better for a moment, but it won't change the reality of who they are. In fact, demonizing men on the down low is more likely to push these men further into denial about their sexuality. People often ask, "Why don't these men simply come out and say they're gay?" That's a good question, but as long as we keep demonizing homosexuality, don't expect any mass confessions to happen anytime soon.
10.
Stereotyping women as victims will not keep them safe. Much of the discussion about the down low recently has portrayed women as "victims" of black men. Framing the issue this way disempowers women from the ability to protect themselves, reinforces negative stereotypes about black men and encourages an unhealthy battle of the sexes in the black community.
The media machine behind the down low business (and it is a business) has tried to exploit women's fears about the DL in order to make a quick buck. But fear is not the answer. Education is. Knowledge is power, and all women and men need to know the truth.
keithboykin.comany of those signs add up? i hope not, ima test that shit out. for myself & come back with the results. read & understand you need to practice safe sex because being on the DL didnt spark the black AIDS/HIV epidemic, unprotected sex did.
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on the the next form of DL homosexuality //
GAY FOR PAY.
yes you heard right, gay for pay. those men that will have sex with other men but for cash only, if the money isnt involved he typically wont get with a man.
i know a dude who did the gay for pay thing. he claims he's still heterosexual but nah homie, you do a man, or better yet a man that looks like a bitch you are
GAY. theres a nice comfy spot for you in hell.
as much as i love all my homosexual friends, it'll get you a spot right next to sheldon. i mean as accepted as homosexuality is in todays society i dont see why there are so many closet cases, im sure ten of your other homeboys are right in the same closet with you.
QUEEEEEN!
